Describe yourself by choosing one from each of the following pairs.
(1) Friendly Reticent
(2) Self-reliant Dependent
(3) Impulsive Calculating
(4) Optimistic Pessimistic
(5) Conservative Liberal
(6) Outgoing Shy
(7) Adventurous Staid
(8) Humorous Humorless
(9) Leader Follower
(10) Spendthrift Tightwad
(11) Forgiving Vengeful
(12) Social Reclusive
(13) Idealistic Realistic
(14) Modest Boastful
(15) Law-abiding Anarchic
Sample Answers
(A)
This is hard! Sometimes neither choice is quite right. For instance, with my close friends I'm very outgoing and friendly, but I'm usually a bit shy and reticent among strangers. Which is the real me?
(B)
I'm definitely the Leader type. I guess that tits my other choices such as Self-Reliant, Realistic, and Social. But I wonder, am I really Boastful? I know I'm not falsely Modest very often, but I would prefer to describe myself as Honest rather than Boastful. But this list sure does give me a lot to think about in my self-evaluation.
Speak your mind
1. Who do you think knows you the best? Why?
2. What makes you the proudest of yourself?
3. What makes you the most disappointed with yourself?
4. List three things you should change to improve yourself.
5. A sense of humor is often considered important for fostering better relationships with others. Why?
Speak your mind helpers
1. Who do you think knows you the best? Why?
(A)
I know myself better than anyone else, because I'm the only one I can't hide my thoughts from. I'm with me 24 hours a day. Plus, I'm very introspective. Sometimes all this self-knowledge makes Ice a little lonely, but mostly I'm glad nobody else can fully know the real me — sometimes that would be really embarrassing!
(B)
I guess my mother knows me the best. Even before I was born, she‘s been with me. All during my growing up, she has kept constant tabs on me, talking to me, asking me personal questions, pushing and prodding me to do better. I think she knows what I’m going to do or say even before I do, but I know she's always behind me.
2. What makes you the proudest of yourself?
(A)
Anytime I am faced with a difficult decision and I work my way to the correct choice, I'm very proud of my intelligence and determination and extremely glad that my parents /ns/i/led such a strong sense of values in me. I may never be a millionaire or president, but I'm pretty sure I'll always be a good person.
(B)
Whenever I score a goal, I feel like I'm the best athlete on my team. But I guess it
balances out when I get a penalty or miss an easy shot. So I guess I'm not perfect, yet.
3. What makes you the most disappointed with yourself?
(A)
If someone I meet doesn't like me right away, I can't help but feel hurt. Did I say something to offend that person? Do I have a bad attitude? However, once that person gets to know me we usually become very good friends. I still wonder why I didn't connect with the others, though.
(B)
Sometimes I study extremely hard for a test and then don't like the grade I get. Part of it is the teacher's fault for not fully disclosing what we're going to be tested on. But sometimes the test is just too hard, and I need more time to study for it or to take it. I wish I were as smart as others in my class. But I'll keep working at my studies until I get them right. I refuse to give up.
4. List three things you should change to improve yourself.
(A)
Only three? I think I need help in a lot more areas than that! But, let's see: I should lose some weight and exercise more. That's obvious. I think I could study harder. And I need to show my friends and family that I appreciate them more.
(B)
I‘ve thought about this very seriously, but, really, I can't think of anything I'm really deficient in. I know I could make marginal improvements everywhere, because I know m not perfect. But for the most part I like the way I am, and other people, including my friends and my family, seem to like me that way too.
5 . A sense of humor is often considered important for fostering better relationships with others. Why?
M: Do you think I'm humorless?
F: Sometimes, maybe, but usually you see the funny side of things. 1 don't think you take life or yourself too seriously, but you aren't irresponsible either.
M: I'm glad to hear you say that. Lately, people seem to think that I'm too tense. I guess maybe I'm working too hard.
F: We all need to relax sometimes. But maybe even more important: we need to be able to get others to relax with us. If being with us makes everyone else feel nervous, no one will want to be in our presence, and we'll never have close friends.
M: That's true. But if someone's always a clown and ls constantly the life of the party, lots of people may want to be with that person, but they won't take him very seriously. He'll be more like a pet poodle than anything else.
F: It's not just acting silly and telling jokes well that matters. Having a good sense of humor means being able to accept setbacks as part of life and not getting down about the bad things. A smile is always a better solution than suicide.
M: But sometimes we need to do the hard work to succeed, even if it is not all fun and games. A pleasant mediocrity is still just a mediocrity. 1 don't see how anyone can be content with laughing at his or her own failures — it's not funny!
F: But people who can't laugh at their own absurdities can never overcome them. We all need to realize how imperfect we are and then do the best we can. If we fail sometimes, people won't think worse of us for it, and when we succeed they won't resent us. In either case, we’ll be much happier about it.
M: You seem to have thought this through pretty thoroughly.
F: Well, I guess it's because I've fallen down enough times to realize that it hurts too much if I can't laugh about it at the time.
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